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The REAL Reason Your Relationships Keep Failing
(and how to change your dating to finally find a love that will last)
Why do all of my relationships end up failing?
Quick Answer: The friction and difficulties inside your relationships eventually kill the love. At the bottom of it all, that’s what kills almost all relationships … but this is not the question you should be asking.
If you want your next relationship to be your last relationship, you should ask this question:
How did the difficulties get into my relationships in the first place?
If you can answer that question, then you can fix the root of the problem and finally find a love that lasts!
Here’s the answer. Revolutionary. Uncomplicated. Powerful.
Your Dating Beliefs
You started with the lessons in love
Since you were a kid, you’ve been taught that you can’t get everything you want in a partner, so you must learn to take the good with the bad.
Before You Started Dating
You took the lessons to heart...
To help you take the good with the bad, you learned (okay, absorbed) these concepts and skills.
These wise tools, you were told, would help you deal with any conflicts that arise.
Over time, you came to believe that these ideals were essential for finding and nurturing a loving relationship.
Putting the Skills to Use
Then you started dating...
You used the tools as you dated, learning to listen, respect, compromise, and adapt to your future long-term partner.
In essence, you learned to be tolerant.
Dating Becomes LTR
Next, you took the plunge ... cheers!
But what happened to the difficulties you learned to tolerate as you were dating?
Did they get tossed into the garbage with the party poppers?
The Dating Blowback
The love starts to fade...
The difficulties didn’t evaporate at the altar.
Instead, they followed you over the threshold like a termite swarm – and your long-term relationship was their new favorite long-term buffet.
Those pesty little difficulties infested your relationship, constantly nibbling away at the love you worked so hard to find.
Eventually, you got tired of tolerating the difficulties, and the relationship died.
The Lovalutionary Insight
How did the difficulties get into your LTR in the first place?
You let them in during dating!
The difficulties in your LTRs were there because you let them in during dating!
Your heart let the love in the front door, and your dating tools let the difficulties sneak in the back door.
The tools helped you adjust to the conflicts, allowed you accept less than what you wanted, and let you continue dating (and fall in love with) someone who didn’t fit.
The beliefs, common wisdom, and practical advice that everyone said would help only helped you tolerate being with someone who isn’t right for you.
The Einstein Solution
Find someone you don't have to tolerate!
The solution to this problem is to find someone with whom you don’t have any difficulties, struggles, or conflicts!
You won’t have any difficulties, or need the tools, if you find someone who is extraordinarily easy for you to be with.
Imagine that!
Instead of a relationship built with a mixture of love and difficulties, you’d just have the love.
Write This Down
What You Need to Do to Find Your Loveship
The truth is that you CAN get everything you want…and more. There are 7 billion people on the planet! That’s 7 billion opportunities to get exactly what you want!
So, what do you want? Do you want to be working on your relationship difficulties all the time, or do you want an easy love?
Begin the path to finding your Loveship by doing two things:
- Stop using “the tools” as you date. If you need the tools, then you need to find someone else.
- Search exclusively for those people who feel naturally right and extraordinarily easy for you. Use your online profile to find them.
- Date those people exclusively. Do not have a first date unless you have a really good feeling that the person feels naturally right and easy for you.
einstein of love
revolutionary. uncomplicated. powerful.
The REAL Reason Your Relationships Keep Failing
(and how to change your dating to finally find a love that will last)
Why do all of my relationships end up failing?
Quick Answer: The friction and difficulties inside your relationships eventually kill the love. At the bottom of it all, that’s what kills almost all relationships.
But this is not the not question you should be asking.
If you want your next relationship to be your last relationship, you should ask this question:
How did the difficulties get into my relationships in the first place?
If you can answer that question, then you can fix the root of the problem and finally find a love that lasts!
Here’s the answer. Revolutionary. Uncomplicated. Powerful.
You started with the lessons in love
Since you were a kid, you’ve been taught that you can’t get everything you want in a partner, so you must learn to take the good with the bad.
You took the lessons to heart
To help you take the good with the bad, you learned (okay, absorbed) these concepts and skills.
These wise tools, you were told, would help you deal with any conflicts that arise.
Over time, you came to believe that these ideals were essential for finding and nurturing a loving relationship.
And then you started dating
You used the tools as you dated, learning to listen, respect, compromise, and adapt to the difficulties between you and your future long-term partner.
In essence, you learned to be tolerant.
Next, you took the plunge ... cheers!
But what happened to the difficulties you learned to tolerate as you were dating?
Did they get tossed into the garbage with the party poppers?
The love starts to fade...
The difficulties didn’t evaporate at the altar.
Instead, they followed you over the threshold like a termite swarm – and your long-term relationship was their new favorite long-term buffet.
Those pesty little difficulties infested your relationship, constantly nibbling away at the love you worked so hard to find.
Eventually, you got tired of tolerating the difficulties, and the relationship died.
How did the difficulties get into your relationship in the first place?
You let them in during your dating!
The difficulties in your LTRs were there because you let them in during dating!
Your heart let the love in the front door, and the dating tools let the difficulties sneak in the back door.
The tools helped you adjust to the difficulties, allowed you accept less than what you wanted, and let you continue dating (and fall in love with) someone who didn’t fit.
The beliefs, common wisdom, and practical advice that everyone said would help only helped you tolerate being with someone who isn’t right for you.
The solution to this problem is to find someone with whom you don't have any difficulties or struggles.
You won’t have any difficulties, or need the tools, if you find someone who is extraordinarily easy for you to be with.
Imagine that! Instead of a relationship built with a mixture of love and difficulties, you’d just have the love.
What You Need to Do to Find Your Loveship
The truth is that you CAN get everything you want…and more.
There are 7 billion people on the planet!
That’s 7 billion opportunities to get exactly what you want!
So, what do you want? Do you want to be working on your relationship difficulties all the time, or do you want an easy love?
Begin the path to finding your Loveship by doing two things.
Write these down:
- Stop using “the tools” as you date. If you need the tools, then you need to find someone else.
- Search exclusively for those people who feel naturally right and extraordinarily easy for you. Use your online profile to find them.
- Date those people exclusively. Do not have a first date unless you have a really good feeling that the person feels naturally right and easy for you.
einstein of love
revolutionary. uncomplicated. powerful.
Einstein of Love is a special feature of BlovedTalks.
These articles cut through the clutter to deliver revolutionary, uncomplicated, and powerful answers to dating and relationship’s most intractable problems.
Through these articles and other works, Troy and Judy, together with Team Bloved, put singles on a path to finding Loveships — the next step beyond relationships. Loveships are a unique type of togetherness which are uncommonly easy, uber harmonious, and profoundly connected.
The Dating for True Love System rebuilds dating and relationships from the ground up and leads daters step-by-step to finding a Loveship of their own — the natural, unfading, life-fulfilling love that singles are looking for today.
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